Ge the book, "The Big Ordeal, understanding and managing the psychological and emotional turmoil of cancer" by Cynthia Hayes. It's about all cancer, to just breast cancer and I found it very fitting to my own breast cancer process. It's well written, easy to understand, sectioned so that you can easily skip parts and read what's timely for you . Get one copy for you and one for her. I found, still find, it very helpful and I wish I'd found the book sooner in my own process. Best wishes and good luck.