@sam1108 How is your grandmother feeling today? I’ve been following your discussion and from your last post of 3 days ago you wrote that your grandmother is thinking no treatment. The questions you are asking about how your grandmother will feel if she doesn’t not receive treatment are good questions to ask. As @val64 mentioned these are questions to ask your grandmother’s doctor because the answers will help her to decide what she wants and does not want.

My mother-in-law had cancer - a different kind of cancer (ocular melanoma) that she received treatment for when it was diagnosed in 2016. She was always a very active and energetic woman and when the cancer returned and spread she decided no aggressive treatment. She continued to live as she always had and eventually became weaker. Once she entered hospice she received meds for pain and anxiety. She was 90 years old when she died two years ago.

I’m sharing this story only because this is one example of a very active woman much like your grandmother. It was the choice my mother-in-law made despite what her family suggested which was more treatment. Once she made her choice and communicated it to us we were very supportive.

Your post demonstrates that you are loving and caring granddaughter who wants what is best for your grandmother and will support whatever she chooses. When family “gets on the same page” and figures out how to accept their loved one’s choices then that harmony allows the loved one to experience the grace that they seek.

Are others in your family supporting your grandmother’s choices are you are dong?

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