Thank you so much for your reply, this is helpful to have a safe place to discuss this. Sadly, I wrote him a caring letter yesterday, expressing my concern for him and to let him know that if he would like help... I am here for him even if we are separating. Sadly, his reaction was unkind and essentially ended with my needing professional help - he's okay and does not have a problem I guess. Willing to see or talk to a Dr or therapist, unfortunately not. Sometimes I fear that he has a bit of a superiority perspective, everyone around him is at fault - especially me. I am the one who has broken our family, I am the one that has tarnished his reputation, I am the one who overreacted when he was yelling and trying to corner me into a bathroom and called the police cause I was scared. Sadly, I actually come away from talking with him wondering where I went wrong, am I over reacting, am I misunderstanding what is happening. It's hard not to feel alone. I have connected with counsellors, the crisis lines, support groups like this... plus I have family who have been incredibly supportive. This is all just so awful! If I did not ask to separate, he would be his happy, cheerful positive self while I continue to be frustrated by lack of family time, his sleeping all day, concerns with finances - I felt I had no choice, I need to part from him.

Yes aa and alanon are awesome!!