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Relationships: How do you form and maintain them when ill?

Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Sep 14, 2023 | Replies (76)
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@buzz23 Tabitha, I read in your one post that you are a writer, and that certainly comes out as you communicate with us! You have a lot to give to this world, and I look forward to seeing your accomplishments. Having two books in progress can be so rewarding.

As to relationships, there is nothing wrong with wanting to know as much as possible about someone before going out with them. You need to feel safe, and comfortable. It would be a difficult job to relax into the situation, if you feel always on guard. Am I right?

You asked about my kidney function. Actually, I am on daily dialysis. In 2014 I was diagnosed with an ultra-rare autoimmune kidney disorder. There have been less than 50 people ever diagnosed with it. It causes a collagen buildup in the filtering components of my kidneys, and have succeeded in just about shutting them down. But I live each day gratefully.
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buzz23 | @buzz23 | Sep 11, 2023

Hi Ginger,
Thank you for the kind words. I really enjoy writing. And I tend to write more when I ma busy and very active. The ideas come naturally, so does their development. I look forward to publishing my writing. If it achieves one thing only, I want that thing to be that we should bare ourselves more often and put our masks away.
I need to feel safe, it has to be a public place with open and easy access (not a restaurant in the woods or in a valley), I am not trying to get killed. I know how I want to die, and that is not it. Unfortunately, I understand my former therapist's point. I am cursed with having a brain that insists on exploring and completely thinking through both sides of the coin. I am that person who will disagree and argue out a point with myself for half an hour (lol). Her point was that yes, a person I don't have background information on can turn out to not be a good person, but so can the person that I have a lot of background info on. Also, that random person I don't know well could turn out to be everything I need, and perhaps more. I will never know, if I don't try. Also, a comfort zone is a wonderful place, but nothing grows there.
Are you on peritoneal or haemo-dialysis? Have you been on it since 2014? What is your average day like?
How do you cultivate gratitude?

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