Good Evening in Zambia. It is 11 a.m. here in Florida, USA.

My familiarity with Africa is non existant. Only in South Africa and through my first husband, as said. He lived with his English family, the father being a high ranking officer in the British Military and he attening boarding school in South Africa. The family lived just outside of Johanasberg. I have not been there but have watched "Out of Africa" soo many times. Once long ago I had an opportunity to go with a friend to live for six months and declined the invitation. It is somewhere I've always wanted to visit and perhaps live in the most southern part of South Africa. It is, sadly, now too late for that adventure and I know nothing of the politics in your country or those of South Africa at this writing.

I loved my short time in Portugal but, again, I was married to a Frenchman and there is where we moved and lived for a few years until God decided he needed him. Before we moved to the South of France we spent 3 months driving around Europe with no itinerary and loved the freedom of that; experiencing the different cultures, their costumes, customes and the food, of course.

I know nothing of the dating sites you mentioned. I am sorry. Good luck with that and be careful as I have found that people lie about their age, education, weight (especially) and are incluned to post photos that are anything but current. I could write a book about the "Do's and Dont's" of dating.

I believe that the year you have selected for your life style change is too far away. You are 29 and in my opinion it is time to put on your Big Girl Panties and get on with your studies and life in general. Have you considered Switzerland with many small, charming villages? I have stayed in several. A beautiful country and your French would be accepted as well as the other languages you speak.

A bit ago this morning I asked my husband to read the last two days of what you have written and he and I agree that your eloquence and maturity is amazing. This leads me to say to you that if I were as talented as you appear to be I would strongly consider becoming a writer. Only you know the topics with which you are familiar and most comfortable. One quick start would be your local newspaper as a contributer or a columinist - or begin a book. Obviously writing a book can be done anywhere you choose that offers the solitude you desire. I honestly believe you have this talent.

Again, I must say that the United States, at this time, is not a peaceful place and gender and color have somehow taken hold of many Americans including the politicians and the bitterness and attitude I see is not only frightening but very sad. This may pass or not. I discourage you from coming here as crime is high and as stated ratial issues are out of hand. This is sad but true, my friend. If I am remembering correctly your mother is close to you and I hope she is guiding you. I am trying to guide you as well and I am at an age that I quality for that position.

It is now almost noon here. I have put chicken thighs, red skin potatoes, muchrooms and it is swimming in a Parmason and Roasted Garlic salad dressing - all in the crock pot.

It is always such a pleasure to communicate with you. I hope to hear from you again soon. Enjoy what you may have put in your crock pot for your evening meal. Judith...please excuse any miss spelled words. Spell check is not automatic on my PC. Ciao for now Tabitha.