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@mir123

You are kind to ask--and I feel for you in your circumstances. Also, you do seem to be handling it well. I have a "committee" that helps me make all my cancer treatment & care decisions--husband, grown daughter, best friend. They are close to each other but have different perspectives. I'm guessing that when I get really sick I'll go pretty quickly, as I don't intend to treat beyond hospice. I've also got a less formal direct care group--neighbor, rabbi, friend who is a hospice nurse. I figure my household can manage short term with that and maybe hired help, and I have also set up a delivery laundry service. But if my decline drags on I'm in favor of assisted living near-by. My husband is totally against that. However, I've said it is a fine option with me. We had a close friend we cared for in hospice within assisted living--she had no family so a group of friends (many from former workplace) spent 6 months taking shifts most of the day. But she had meals, meds, linens provided by institution. My friends pension plus social covered the cost and I'm in a similar situation. As you can probably tell, I'm a worst case scenario person. Hope this in't too negative a response...but have given it some thought. Hope things are going well for you today!

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You have what I call a "King Arthur's round table", that's great.
May I ask what stage you are? And if you will receive treatment? Have you made peace with the situation?
It is an honest response, I'll take honesty over anything any day.