Be there with her. You might not say or do the perfect thing, but not being there or showing concern is the most difficult thing. For myself, the text messages, calls, and cards were all beneficial. I found medical advice could sometimes be intrusive (eat mushrooms, don't eat sugar, eat turmeric, try with Marinol etc.) Listening is good. Thanks for sharing your story and hope you will share with us what you learn as you go along.