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Where do you want to grow old?
Aging Well | Last Active: Oct 15 9:41pm | Replies (267)Comment receiving replies
I've been terribly unhappy in a 10 year marriage. We're just room-mates but I'm totally disabled and can't live alone with so many physical and mental health conditions. I'm 64. He's healthy and I have no kids. Siblings don't care. I go to a senior center but lots of strange people and no connections there. I don't drive so he's my transportation. He's 85. Won't even hold my hand! Not sick enough for nursing home. I have no idea what to do. Need another foot surgery but refuse for now. Nothing in the future for me. Looking into pallative care. Maria.
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This is so sad...I wonder if you could set yourself up with a social worker thru' your doctor who could help you with connecting to some social home visits from volunteers who could take you shopping, medical visits, church or other events that wouldn't involve your husband so that you could have a degree of independence and create other more positive friendships of your own.
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Perhaps continue to network here and find more ideas.
Volunteer for a charity with more in-home things. Start a limited one day at a time. Keep connected to family …despite limitations if you can. A small at home job? Look into health issues regarding foot and plan to address.
Marriages are work, but it helps to be civil and adult. There’s a lot out there. A church group?
Keep looking and be kind to yourself. You are worth it.