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Relationships: How do you form and maintain them when ill?
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Sep 14, 2023 | Replies (76)Comment receiving replies
@buss23 Ah, I can so relate! All of my life I have been considered fiercely independent, by myself and by others. Now at the young age of 70, over the last many years, that independence has eroded slowly away to using mobility devices, and asking for assistance in some things. It has been a major blow to my self-esteem. There are those in my life who valued me for my independence, and are now confused/unwilling in the face of being a partner on any level if it entails a less-than-perfect co-partner. For my part, there is a realization that I need to be the best I can at any time, and ask for those people to come along with me. Those who can, will. Those who cannot/will not, will be left on the wayside.
Ginger
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Have you identified anything that helps with your self esteem in relation to this?
It is sad when people value you for one particular thing about you and not for who you are as a person, because they crumble or leave the second that one thing changes. Those are not your people.
Some days/periods are too difficult to be the best version of yourself. Sometimes, simply existing is all we can do, and that's okay.