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Relationships: How do you form and maintain them when ill?
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Sep 14, 2023 | Replies (76)Comment receiving replies
Thanks so much for the response. I really share your concern, and don't have an easy answer. I fear that when I need more caretaking I'll lose my (granted elderly) relationship pizzazz. Currently the best I can come up with is that I need to trust that my spouse is a grown-up who will ask for what he needs, and get his own support. It is difficult for me--tell me if you have other ideas.
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Have you discussed what will happen when you need more caretaking with your spouse?
I love how the weight of everything isn't on you. You are right, a grownup should be able to identify and express their needs, and do something to have them met. The same way that you should say if you need help with something.
I don't know if I have other ideas.
I am young, so that is also an issue, to need caretaking so early in life is heavy. I am not married or in a relationship, and I live on my own. So my caretaking is by someone I am paying and a couple of friends. I currently have a lady who comes over twice a week, and a friend who sometimes cooks for me and helps with errands. But that is falling short. I am now looking into the idea of having someone like a health assistant or nurse, because some days I need help bathing and getting dressed etc. My mind is not liking any of it. Hence my asking how you are approaching the issue of needing caretaking.