I wrote a detailed reply to you, Paul, but somehow it disappeared.
I was diagnosed with rectal cancer about 2 years ago. Opted for 6 weeks of radiation and oral chemo, hoping I'd be one of the lucky ones who were cured this way. Couldn't wrap my head around having major surgery with a lifelong ostomy bag. However, they recently found "something" at the previous growth site. Although a biopsy showed it was non-cancerous, the chances of it becoming cancerous are great. It is located very close to my sphincter and so my options are limited.
I'm trying to focus on all the ways in which I'm "lucky": great surgeon, good insurance, wonderful, helpful friends.
I'm so thankful for all the good wishes and prayers.