Centre - great minds think alike. I'm so glad you wrote about making natural pile-its to cover that which we don't wish our loved ones to readily see. I've actually been relocating things and changing what was a familiar appearance. Cell phones are worthless here. A text might get out or in and it may be delayed. However, I've hooked up copper line phones everywhere I can, even put splitters on some of the jacks to make them reachable JUST IN CASE. I've quit mentioning some things such as who tried to call, if they're a bad influence and I quit sharing anything that I deem a trigger for bad behavior on his part.
My escape plan is doors locked, phone for help and I do have a somewhat means of escape if I need to exit the house. I have one neighbor who is somewhat aware of the situation. If he's home, he could be here in a reasonable amount of time.
Crazyland - you nailed that one. Do you mind if I borrow that terminology? This is all so bizarre....where did my husband go? The one who used to be so much fun and loving....kind????????? I sure miss him.