Good evening @nrb1942,
Does that "1942" mean that you and I are the same age? I am also blessed with a wonderful life partner. However, I didn't have him when I had my reverse shoulder replacement.

Lucky me.....I had my friend Kathy who just drove up my mountain, pulled in the driveway, grabbed her suitcase, and moved in for 4 or 5 days. She was so very helpful. My surgery was on my dominant side....so I needed help with eating and meds, taking showers, washing hair, etc., etc., etc. Of course, I couldn't drive either with the immobilizer on my arm for six weeks.

One item worth working on is sleeping ware. I used a large long t-shirt, that I put on without trying to put my surgery arm in the sleeve. That helped me keep the immobilizer close to my body during the night. For walking outside later, I wore a vest and held onto the open front side for stability.

One helpful item.....I learned to use silverware for eating with my opposite arm/hand. I still do that when I have discomfort. I actually was classified as ambidextrous and was able to write sales slips with my other arm. It is rather amazing what we can do when we have to.

So....it looks like I may be heading to another shoulder surgery after falling down a flight of stairs. I have already had rotator cuff surgery and it doesn't seem to have eliminated the pain. So please include me when you post updates. I wish you good luck and will be thnking about you in October.

May you be free of suffering and the causes of suffering.

Chris