Hello @midiwiz and welcome to our group. I take it you would rather be in Philadelphia than have to face what is down the road ahead. If you don't have an online portal with your doctor(s) try to get one so you can read and re-read the doctor's reports (SOAP's). Take notes and learn what you can about how you are going to proceed. Also make sure your radiologist and surgeon is well versed in head and neck cancer, not just cancer. If they have no experience in head and neck then my advice would be to seek out a second opinion and staff. Try not to get overwhelmed. Take this one step at a time. You are going to have to devote most of your time and resources to getting rid of this cancer.
Do you have someone to help you through this? It's not a trip you should make alone. Keep posting as you progress. Lots of help to be found here.