If one is going to a therapist and is still stuck, then that therapist isn't helping anymore. Messages on this forum are snapshots that only give partial pictures. We respond to them based on our lives and healing/hurting experiences. What I see is that neither of you is giving/accepting what the other wants right now. With healing and time that can change. Decades ago I was stalked after breaking up with an abusive boyfriend, so that colors how I read your message, fillybuster. That he was obsessed with me in no way indicates that you are anything but caring for her. It is why I recommended some time to focus on yourself, Because of my past, it would add stress if I had a boyfriend that was so focused on me. As it is, I have a husband that is focused on electronics and helping with the dishes and cleaning (a good tradeoff). You deserve to be treated well, and covid/life hits all of us differently. Life gets better once you are out of the tunnel.