Don, how disheartening to get this news. It certainly takes a toll on you, right?

If you go to the search bar under the "cancer" support group, or the "kidney and bladder" support group, and type in renal cell carcinoma, you will find several discussions and comments. Perhaps this will shed some information for you?

Meanwhile what are you doing for yourself to minimize the concern and feeling of being adrift?
Ginger