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I'm very supportive, but she doesn't want it
Post-COVID Recovery & COVID-19 | Last Active: Aug 28, 2023 | Replies (24)Comment receiving replies
Covid is like any other major change, it can hit relationships. My husband is very supportive by taking on tasks that my fatigue limits. He also gives me space when I need time to myself. It sounds like a lot of your focus has been on her, which is great that you are so supportive. Perhaps some time apart will allow you to focus on yourself and your needs. Sometimes relationships need resets, even long ones like ours. Illnesses can slap around and change people and their needs. Self worth can be rebuilt and it is good to focus on you.
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The thing is, I have been practically forced to be out of a relationship for 3/4 of a year already, and there is no hint of reset. I was such a mental mess from my previous marriage, which included domestic violence against me, that there was no step of rebuilding my self-worth that my girlfriend did not patiently lead. But even if I take this hard time for trying to work on myself, she cannot do the same unless time itself pops our relationship back into focus/priority for her. I cannot fathom that she does not realize how important I have already been to her survival, and how important I would continue to be. It hurts so badly to think the only solution left is to let her feel life without my support for a while. These are unprecedented circumstances that require unprecedented gambles. Nothing I ever saw prepared me for this. I feel so sorry for her. The last time I asked her to describe her pain on a scale of 1 to 10, she said 13. Some breakthrough, any sign at all, would be reason to celebrate.