Oh Cheryl (@cehunt57), this is heart breaking. You all really have your hands full. Her husband may not know how to process everything that their future may hold, especially the thought of caring for the children. I hope the two of them are able to have some honest discussions, and soon. I'm so glad you are able to support her. While she really wants/needs support from others too, at least you are able to show her love and support. As you know, focusing on her health is most important right now. Being stage IV, has she looked into social security disability? If she's eligible, it may take away some of the stress of two jobs.