Kim (@kimegraves), Debbie (@dbeshears1)
That was a lesson I learned a long time ago, watching how my parents, aunts, and uncles related to their doctors. In short, they didn't relate, at least not in any active way. They played a passive role, never feeling presumptuous enough to ask questions or challenge their doctors' advice. Folks in my family received their doctors' wisdom and went on their way.
Now, I'm not faulting their doctors. I'm sure their doctors did their best in those less corporatized days.
But how many red-flag symptoms went unmentioned by my parents, aunts, and uncles? I'll never know. What I do know is that when any of my parents' generation ended up hospitalized, it always seemed to come as a great shock ("Who knew Aunt Betty was so ill?"), and the prognosis we'd be informed was always bleak ("If you'd like to see Aunt Betty, I'd suggest you not delay"). If only my parents, aunts, and uncles had partnered more with their doctors, things might have been different.
So I ask questions.
I hope you're having a fine weekend!
Cheers!
Ray (@ray666)
Ray - I kind of had a first for me. I had an appointment Tuesday as my PCP referred me to a Neurologist network in my neighborhood, as the other one took 2.25 hrs to get to, and it's not practical. The unfortunate thing is that by "local", it means his "real" office is off in the city, and he only comes to my neighborhood office 1 day a week - the only doctor there, with his nurse & a busy receptionist. As just establishing care, I was going to take it easy and had only 2 basic questions (so I didn't make a list). I was in the waiting room with 3 other patients behind me when I was called, and the doctor was 45 minutes late in seeing me (3 pm had been my appointment time). He asked questions, tried to get my history as he was checking my strength, temperature feeling, non-reflexes, and pin pricks. He was very nice, I liked his demeanor, but he was very hurried, stood, and said "I want to see you again in 6 weeks", and literally rushed out the door while my mouth was open. I did not get a single question in! I checked out, a bit bewildered; it was about 4:15 and I noticed there were about 3 NEW patients in the waiting room, so I guess the other 3 were in exam rooms, so with the office shutting down at 5:00, there was no doubt a rush to catch up. An unfortunate thing I noticed on the old fashioned sign-in sheet - 2 people had signed in for 1:00, 2 for 1:30, 3 for 2:00, so on, and 2 for my time of 3:00. I was never a fan of that scheduling, but even before Covid times, I guess patient no-shows & lateness helped promote that. But the part that plesantly surprised me despite not asking questions? It was him scheduling me back in 6 WEEKS instead of months. I will prepare better, and first did so by choosing a morning appointment.