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I agree Becky...Frances is really a model of restraint!
I'd just like to add, though, what a (world of!) difference it makes if you have someone in your life who SEES these behaviors alongside you, AND supports you AND acknowledges that the other person is the problem.
Having been single all my life (until the last 9 years in a relationship, the last 2 of which we've been living together) I can tell you how lonely it can get when these frictions - and worse - arise, especially if they're living in your "space" - whether it's next door, down below, or in the same complex. And, as satisfying as my relationship has been, in my case it doesn't necessarily mean the partner SEES, let alone commiserates, with your experience. But that's another subject for a separate section.
So, in summary, all I want to acknowledge here - and I feel it is significant to Frances' experience - is that going through these trials alone is so much more impactful when there isn't another soul nearby to SEE the behavior firsthand AND support (or at least HUG YOU!) when you endure it.
All warmth and support for Frances here!
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in reply to @brandysparks Thank you. I have to admit that sometimes it becomes exhausting dealing with so many different women with known personality disorders. I can say this with certainty because 1) I lived with a psychotherapist for ten years and learned a thing or two; and 2) I have had enough psychotherapy of my own, and probably put the children of at least two of them through college. My current psychologist agrees with me, so I know I am not imagining any of what I think is off the wall behavior. I am not perfect, that is certain, and I do have my issues, as we all do. Having said this, in order for me to keep myself sane in an insane world I have to keep creating, gardening, making signs that bring me joy and things of that nature. I am inspired by many, including the pharmacy tech who recently told me she is going to dental school. So the other night I got out my water color paints and made her a card with a tooth on it. After showing it to my former doctor, who is now a friend, told me maybe I should try a side kick of making medical illustrations. I am almost done with my painting of the digestive tract, so maybe I can turn this into a lucrative business. LOL.
I mentioned just a few minutes ago that every morning now I go outside and say, "Carpe Diem" which causes my neighbor to slam her door. I am not trying to get a rise out of her. Well, maybe I am, but so what? I take every day as a gift, as we all should. I just bought a poster that says: "Nothing For Granted." I will put this adjacent to the Albert Camus poster that arrived yesterday and says: "Should I Kill Myself or Have Another Cup of Coffee." LOL LOL