I had Ralp 6 months ago and also felt cheated when I wasn't continent in three weeks, thanks to watching those guys on YouTube. But I am almost there now and have high hopes for being very dry all day soon. From the start, sitting and lying down were easy, I rarely leaked. Every time I stood up, I used my kegels to get me to the bathroom to void. I am still that way at night, getting up once or twice a night to empty my bladder just in case. In the daytime at the start, I went from thick pads (in my depends in case of oversaturation), one in the morning, one in the afternoon, and then just the empty (and hopefully dry) depends in the evening. Now I don't need the depends at all, but still use pads in my underwear. One thick pad will last all day if I'm just doing normal things. If I work out (like 2 hours of pickleball) that requires its own thick pad. If I play 18 holes of golf, and hang out with my foursome, that can last over 5 hours. For that I have taken to an external catheter which straps to my leg and is hidden under my shorts. I drain it at the turn and it works out very well so far. I do the kegels and have far more control now than I used to have. The nurse said one day it will just magically happen. I don't know about that but it is improving. One caution- a friend who had this several years ago still puts a light pad in his underwear for that unexpected cough or sneeze which still makes him release a little urine.