I foolishly watched those YouTube videos posted by men who were fully continent really early in their recovery. I expected that to happen to me and it didn't. I am 6 months post RALP and can finally see real improvement in my stress incontinence. I never changed pads many times each day, I typically went through two heavy duty pads, one in the morning, one in the afternoon, each put into my depends. In the evening I would take the latest wet pad out and just stay with the depends. But now, when I am just having a normal day (no extremes in activity) I can get by with one heavy pad for the entire day, or two light pads. When I go for a long walk, or play a sport (golf, pickleball) I still leak, but not as profusely as I used to. I found that a condom catheter works very well for 18 holes of golf. I do my Kegels, not as punctually as I should now that I am far more active, but definitely I do some everyday. I do believe my body will soon figure it out and resolve this problem. But a word of caution, one of my friends who went through this years ago, says he still wears a light pad everyday just in case of a cough, or a sneeze or something unexpected. I keep telling myself, being cancer free is worth having a shorter penis, no ejaculations, and incontinence. Some days I believe it, some days I don't.