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Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Aug 2, 2023 | Replies (23)

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@frances007 Oh, Frances, you always strike me as being the kindest, most thoughtful person! Remember, that you’re just living your life as best you can. Despite all your health problems, you still go out of your way to help others. Whenever someone is mean to you, just remind yourself that that is their problem. You cannot heal them or change them, just be polite. Just be yourself! I tell you this from experience. My mother in law never liked me and always said mean things to me or about things. But my husband and I always just thought how sad and lonely she must be.
Remember Frances, YOU are a wonderful person. My motto from those old days: “don’t let those turkeys get you down!”

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brandysparks | @brandysparks | Jul 30, 2023

I agree Becky...Frances is really a model of restraint!

I'd just like to add, though, what a (world of!) difference it makes if you have someone in your life who SEES these behaviors alongside you, AND supports you AND acknowledges that the other person is the problem.

Having been single all my life (until the last 9 years in a relationship, the last 2 of which we've been living together) I can tell you how lonely it can get when these frictions - and worse - arise, especially if they're living in your "space" - whether it's next door, down below, or in the same complex. And, as satisfying as my relationship has been, in my case it doesn't necessarily mean the partner SEES, let alone commiserates, with your experience. But that's another subject for a separate section.

So, in summary, all I want to acknowledge here - and I feel it is significant to Frances' experience - is that going through these trials alone is so much more impactful when there isn't another soul nearby to SEE the behavior firsthand AND support (or at least HUG YOU!) when you endure it.

All warmth and support for Frances here!

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