@cindysj This is a very difficult position for you and your family who are all so far away from your sister. Since your sister decided to go ahead with the new drug therapy it sounds like her GYNOncologist is thinking about all possible options to discuss with Judy. I’m curious where your anxiety about Judy’s decision comes from? You wrote that the new drug therapy may not help directly with the ascites but could it help to reduce the cancer tumors? I’m not a medical professional so I don’t know what helps to reduce ascites other than treating the source. I have known people who have ascites due to liver disease (not cancer, it was cirrhosis) and the ascites reduced when the liver disease was treated.

In my experience the anxiety is present when we worry about our loved one whether we are present at their side or far away from them. I tried to help both my mother and father make decisions about their own respective health problems but in the end it was their own decision. I had to learn to give up the « control » and realize that even if I thought I would do something differently it wasn’t up to me. I was frustrated, sad and yes, very anxious. Does this sound at all familiar to you?