Hello jlh1952!
Going through all of this definitely does feel like a mine field, trying to find a place where you and your husband and family are safe. I have found that meditation and visualization are very helpful in finding a place of calm while you are navigating through all of this. It seems to help me to feel that I will be able to overcome some really tough things. Tomorrow I go to have biopsies of 2 lymph nodes that have
Appeared close to my original pancreatic cancer from 18 mo ths ago. I'm visualizing that the lymph nodes will be negative.
I'm not sure if this is helpful, but I feel for you at this time, and know
That everything will be ok.