Thanks I thought I was the only one who had to deal with this and was not common. The urologist was what I described but ran into the oncologist/radiologist at same provider telling me no additional benefit to proton versus photon radiation treatment. I knew the cure rates were same but many medical professionals, hospitals, clinics all promoted proton radiation as it had less radiation going in, stop at prostrate and did not go through body past prostrate like photon did. Thus the benefit was less radiation damage to healthy tissue and organs as well as ability to do pencil beam.

So I did chose the proton institute that was honest and provided pros and cons of each and provided tons of research and web sites to retrieve information so I COULD make an informed decision and chose what was best for me based on research, information, etc. I like the professional attitude and had my treatment done there.

I think your rules are outstanding. It is sad that some medical professionals do not have nor continue with the rule you mentioned about "what can I do to help."