@ktawater Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect! I'm happy to see what others have posted here to you. While I am not in the same shoes as you, I do deal with depression myself.

Is your husband doing any therapy? Taking any medications? Sometimes it is difficult to see any assistance from those closest to us. Being available to be a listening ear, not changing the subject so he feels comfortable being vulnerable with you, might help. Has he verbalized what being a help to him will entail, so you know what to do [given that there could be changes at any time!]. I imagine it is difficult to know when to ask him how you can "be there".

I look forward to hearing from you, and listening to your journey of progress in this.
Ginger