honestly i am so sorry you are dealing with this. I had my best friend come over to myhouse and she said something so helpful to me and this is why we are best friends. She asked me : How can I help you? Can i text more and check in, text less and give you space, clean house, grocery shop, etc. you tell me. It was so refreshing to have someone not just say it but have actions behind it. I feel like these are the ones that I want to keep the friendship. she was going through alot at the same time and was never upset with me for not "checking in with her or asking her daily about her day, etc" she knew my overburdening load of caregiving and the stress of working full time while doing this was overwhelming