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Anger. Guilt. Anger….cycle

Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Oct 31, 2023 | Replies (43)

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I'm probably going to feel the anger and guilt cycle today, the 4th. If I don't visit my wife in her memory care facility, I'll feel guilty, but if I do, she'll try to keep me there as long as possible, and I have other things to do today, so I'll end up angry at myself. As I mentioned before, she knows me, and can carry on a conversation, but doesn't offer anything in return, and other than seeing her, it's not a productive use of my time. I have to take her to an MD appointment tomorrow, anyway, and then go back on Thursday for a "new residents' caregiver" meeting. I feel like a taxi driver, where I am the driver and passenger.

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Much as I hate the song "Let it go" & the movie "Frozen", I do find it helpful whenever I start to slip into the anger (frustration) / guilt cycle (which happens too often), I try to take a deep breath, maybe a huge sigh & remind myself to let it go.

So far today has been a somewhat good day. But then there is not much going on.

Try to hang in there. It's all we can do. As we all know, it will all end someday, unfortunately &7 sadly.

Pauline (Lena)