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Deciding whether or not to marry someone with mild dementia
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Jun 29, 2023 | Replies (21)Comment receiving replies
Thank you.... more information if you don't mind. I homeschooled the youngest four through high school, taught school, wrote an accredited Latin course, took care of my sick husband as he died (for two years), am very tired.
I am a caregiver and have been all my life since I took care of my brothers when I was 14. Relieved now to be free and wanted to go to college at this late date. My children are all very successful; one son financially supports me. Now the other side, can I really desert this man I have known for four months and feel that I love so much? He will be lost without me, I fear. His children have control of his investments and I think they are just waiting for him to die. No one wants me to go through this. It is hard when he is in another world, but when he is with me, really WITH me, I love him so much. Is it just selfishness to not care for him? It feels like it is. Any thoughts? No counselors thru church or medical facilities. Need help.
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Can’t you just be his friend?
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@maryflorida You’ve said that you were a caregiver all your life starting at age 14. Then you raised 11 children. And you also said that you’re relieved to be free and maybe go to college. Do you really want to be a caregiver again. When his children control everything? If they are”just waiting for him to die,” it won’t be a happy relationship with them.
Maybe you could just continue to go to movies, for walks, etc and not get married. Be good friends. I saw how exhausted my mother go caring for my dad. She was tired but had to keep going.
Don’t make any decisions yet. Let’s let other members chime in