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I am struggling as a caregiver in another way. My husband's doctors have suggested that it is time for Hospice, but I don't know how to approach him with the subject. He is lucid and alert enough to realize who is coming into our home to help him. I just don't think he wants to face that he may be entering the last six months of his life. How do I navigate this? I tried to approach the subject but he turned away and wouldn't communicate... I didn't even get to the subject of the conversation. I am asking myself if I really need to put him through this -- or just continue trying the best I can to care for him mostly alone, other than the 18 hours I have with a caregiver's assistance. Thank you for any suggestions.
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I am so sorry you are going through this. of course my mom knows when caregivers come she is getting bathed and changed and food sometimes (normally i feed her) so it isn't so bad but now she is transitioning, she is fighting it but not clearly awake still) If i can make a suggestion, I would care for him the best you can (my dad did this for years and it worked for him) but if you have any help (children/friends) who can come "spend time with your hubby even a few hours a week where you can get time away to shop, get coffee by yourself or with a friend, etc. this will help your mental state.
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@hbjuniperflat You have definitely found yourself in a difficult situation. Have you spoken to Hospice about this? Usually, they can come to the home and , very gently, do the talking. You may ask if they could just provide some homecare for awhile and the nurses could just drop in and do their assessments. For you, Hospice will always be there to talk with you on the phone and answer question..
Can you try calling them and see what they can offer you?