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@buggirl55 I really understand your wish and need to stay with your mother in her last minutes. I faced just such a situation last summer when my mother was dying. Almost at the end, i had to leave because of my health at the time. I had to take a long flight, alone, through 2 busy airports. I new that I couldn’t wait. My sisters were there and they would use FaceTime to call me so I was able to say goodbye. Clearly, it was difficult.
Also, in my experience as a nurse with cancer patients, many, many patients choose the moment they will die. Frequently, death happens when family is out of the room. I’m telling you this so you won’t be hard on yourself if you need to leave the room.
I know that this is a difficult time for you and your sister, so I’ll be thinking of you.
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TY. i realize that. my brother in law passed away shortly after my hubby left the room to go home. I couldn't get him back to hospital in time. I think part of my BIL wishes. Also my another BIL passed in 2021 after my SIL left the room to go shower she slept by his side, worked from home, same room, etc. I know when God calls her home it is her time. whether I am here or not. I do sleep in the bedroom away from her so i get some sleep so i can continue working and functioning. the first 2 weeks i didn't sleep at all which didn't help anyone. I am grateful to have whatever time I do have that i can spend with her but if I am not here when she passes, i am close by to help my father through it.