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I'm lonely I have no friends and it feels stupid
Autism (ASD) | Last Active: Sep 6, 2023 | Replies (31)Comment receiving replies
my friend was getting in trouble for talking back to much that's why she won't let me come over and for some reason because Im a boy and my friend's a girl she doesn't really want me to hang out with her
I asked my mom if I could do something over the summer and she said she'll try to find something
the kids in my neighborhood are somewhat friendly but it's very very hard to even get the confidence to talk most of the time it's scary even sometimes I would like to talk but it's like I can't, I can't even speak up for myself I get bullied at school (due to me having autism) Im not to high on the autism scale I just have trouble talking
due to me not having anyone to talk to I spend time learning about animals or drawing I upload my drawings on YouTube
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(that's my yt channel were I draw at) I'm trying to practice talking by talking to myself but I don't really know what else to do
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I think you're running into puberty issues -- at your age my best pal was a boy, and in a short time that was considered inappropriate. I'd like to suggest that not all friends have to be for playtime or schoolgrounds. If yours is a safe neighbourhood, could you get someone to help you locate shut-ins and seniors so you could offer your help with day-to-day things, maybe starting with their pet care needs, or help with YouTube, or putting away grocery deliveries. I think it would benefit you to be the helping person rather than the needy person. If you are fairly mature, trustworthy, and not the type to harm anyone, you could build a circle of friends. Your volunteering would be self-directed, which might keep your anxiety down and make you more comfortable talking, in a setting where topics of conversation just present themselves.
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@shnokeyq It's hard to talk to people. Take a deep breath and calm yourself. I bet you might feel funny if your voice is changing, also. Practice like you do, and learn to listen to how you sound, the pattern and rhythm of your speech. You will find you can tell when you are nervous. Talk to your pet, read aloud, practice, practice, practice.
You have gotten some great suggestions here. Being on the spectrum at any point, many others might point at us and take exception to us. That's bullying. Be strong! I am right here for you!
Ginger