to @debhol
Thank you for sharing we seem to be in the same boat as far as when we had our lobectomy and doing anything like bending or trying to clean my home I can only last so long and the pain is so bad I have to decide if it's worth it. Yet, dust is not a friend when you are trying to heal from this. I have a fairly large home and have never had anyone clean for me; nor cook, I was proud of how clean it had been up until about a year ago when I began to let things get out of control, as far as not putting things away. My husband tried to help me clean just my office and he was winded before me. Turns out he ended up in ER today for viral bronchitis. Although, that day we didn't realize he was ill. As for bras I also purchased ones that you pull up all elastic but large enough not to directly touch my wounds (especially one that is still swollen). However, can't wait to take them off. As for beach or short vacation, it may not happen now that my husband has become ill. He is coughing so hard and we are waiting for the meds to kick in and hoping in a few days he may get some relief.

I had my second VAT five weeks ago. How true about the bra!!!! It is going to be awhile!!! Like Women's lib! I will have my incisions checked by Primary Doc tomorrow and then a long hot bath!
I have significant nerve pain still, everything sore and can't touch breast, and pain also goes below last rib sometimes. I have a lump on rib also, thought to be a seroma. Where is your pain?
I too am on gabapentin and use Salonpas cream. My Cardiologist doesn't want me taking Advil (not recommended for people with heart issues), and am trying not to take Tylenol long term, so suffer through.