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People are telling me I cannot do this anymore, that I need to make other arrangements. I have to sell my home of 25 years and get nothing in return, but possibly enough to buy a row house. People made fun of my family because that was all we could afford growing up. My husband has prostate cancer and frontal temporal dementia. The side effects from the medication for the prostate cancer aggrevate the dementia. He is a survivor, how do I throw in the towel on him.
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Your house is your financial nest egg for your own care later on. Your house cannot be taken from you to cover cost of care for your husband.
Could you ask your neurologist or cancer doc to connect you with a (hospital?) social worker so you can know what all your options are? The social worker can also help you with the decision as to if it is the right time for you and your husband for other care and alleviate the guilt you might be feeling.
(I’m not looking forward to that decision either.)
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It would be nice if the same people who are giving you the advice would volunteer to give you a break. Watch your husband, take you shopping, maybe to a movie, buy you some popcorn. If you belong to a Church, ask them if they have a help program and don't hesitate to lean on them. Your not begging, your asking a fellow Christian to help you.