Somehow I missed this thread until the recent posts--I'm finding it helpful. I have a rare NET in my breast--life expectancy maybe another year or two. I turned down chemo but did a lumpectomy, 3 weeks radiation, and take an AI. None of this was too stressful. When it spreads I've decided to not treat it, just as I decided to go for moderation the first time around. I have numerous co-morbities so nor a great life expectancy without cancer.
I took care of my first husband who died after surgery when he was 36. That experience really made me want to focus on the family as a unit and to not take my caregivers for granted. 10 months since diagnosis have been well spent seeing friends, weekly visits with my grand-daughter, a lot of communication with my husband, daughter, and best friend. I've worked to clarify fiscal things, my house, and possessions. It has been a beautiful opportunity. I've always planned/hoped to go into hospice as I was a hospice volunteer and also did direct care for a friend and my second mother-in-law. I've learned we're alive even when dying--and there is unlimited opportunity for connection, spiritual growth, and yes even autonomy. Regards to everyone.