@ray666, That is a very thoughtful and meaningful statement. I was taught that the reason people grow wary of seeing their friends ailing is first of all.....#1..the reality of not being able to help them. After that, #2 might be.....because it frightens them that they might end up the same way. I think I understand your interpretation that their wariness is because they see the disability and not the person. Practicing mindfulness will help folks be more non-judgemental and accepting.

May you have happiness and the causes of happiness.
Chris