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Undiagnosed for years and desperate

Digestive Health | Last Active: Jun 25, 2023 | Replies (28)

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@jeffsmock

Anne ,thank you so much for your comments. You are correct. I do try to be strong and hide my emotions in front of my wife, so she doesn't get upset. We have had couple of crys together, before hospice was brought in. So it's been awhile. I Love that, be so full of sorrow there's no room for happiness. I will be 60 this month. This is not what I expected. My wife has always been the caretaker when she was able. I'm trying to do the right thing. I don't get to hangout with her as much as I want to. She is a smoker and I had a lung removed a couple of years ago. So I have to retreat to the bedroom if she smokes I'm used to that but when you're trying to spend what time you have left getting even closer. It hurts a little when she lights up to chase me out. I'm trying to reunite her with her family, at least her sisters . I don't if I should just have them come over with out her blessing or what. I could use a little advice on that. I'm not thinking real clear. I really appreciate your response. Thank you, Jeff.

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Hi Jeff,

There is a section here in Mayo Connect for caregivers. They might be able to help with the "not what I expected" part. I am the sick one in my marriage, but I know that my husband is right there with you. For me, my chronic illness kinda takes front and center of my mind all of the time so being disappointed kinda gets pushed back. I guess for the "well" partner, there's more space for disappointment about the turn life is taking. You have taught me something today- thank you!

I'm going to put the sisters and family into another reply. Might take me a little while to think it through and type it up...