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I've always been a huge weeper--music, good news, bad news, books, poetry, prayer, landscape...pretty much everything except for ice cream, which I love but never makes me weep. Sometimes I also think I may be crying about things long in the past...a friend's suicide, the death of my first husband, living in San Francisco at the start of AIDS. Some things can just never be "processed" and get evoked by things I'm currently experiencing. As long as you bounce back, tears are very healing and I think they show affection and respect for or shared human condition. All best to you.

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I too am a”cryer”. Think it is cleansing & seems to provide insight for me. Rabbi Liebman in his book “Peace of Mind” said “ we are given tear ducts to use.” I believe crying can serve a purpose.

I'm a 70-year-old man with imperfect health - some pain issues and failing mobility - and I was raised just like the stereotypical Western male: “Men never cry.”
Well, THAT bullshit is over! As the years go by, having been “daddy” to six beautiful cats in my life and fearing that climate change may turn out to be a severe global disaster, I cry every day. I think of my beloved lost kitties one by one and tear up…doing it right now…sniff!… I see fresh-faced 18 -21-year-old youth still living with mom and dad, and I fear for society when these become voters. How will THEY run civilization when they’ve never had working careers? IS Love REALLY all you need? Many of my generation believed it so. Were we wrong? It's looking more and more like things have gone wrong.

I'm an anxious person and have been since the Sixties - when I was 16. A person can't have lived through the last 50 years and not feel disturbed.

So I find myself tearing up at the sound of a good old rock song, the remembered images of JFK, John Lennon, John Denver, Freddy Mercury, George Harrison and dozens more beloved artists of all types.

Sometimes it just takes the sudden realization that most of the people in my life are already dead to bring a tear.

I also ball my eyes out at great rock concerts. I lost it at Fleetwood Mac, Rod Stewart, Peter Frampton, Joe Cocker and Gord Lightfoot. And yet people don't see me as weird or abnormal. In fact, I've stayed pretty hip for my age! Blue jeans and good weed, man, and that's a party. I get respect.

So...the answer is clearly that we aging weepers are not crazy because we cry.
I say “Cry Out Loud!”