My husband has had mixed dementia (vascular/Alzheimer’s) for 10+ years. He’s now at the point of - at times not knowing who I am, being very affectionate and expressing his love for me, at times being very angry, calling me nasty names and blaming me for things that he can’t explain. He has trouble finding words. Sometimes I can help, other times I have no idea what he’s trying to say. Then he just gives up.
On the plus side, he can use the bathroom appropriately, dress himself, eats well, makes the bed (sort of) and walks, although his knees are painful so he walks very slowly. The 36 hour Day is one book that’s recommended quite often and Teepa Snow’s videos on you tube are very helpful.I am also on the Alzheimer’s online support group and am part of a small Skype support group. My family is very supportive, especially one daughter. Graditude for the abilities that haven’t left him yet is what keeps me going.