Hi @jan83404, Thanks for the pointers on finding help. My husband has Alzheimer's. It's turned him into a sweet person and he's now very loving and appreciative. No hallucinations and we can converse pretty well. He still does chores, washes the dishes, and has easily given up management of our finances, home maintenance responsibilities, and driving. I know I am fortunate. We celebrated our 39th anniversary yesterday and went out to dinner, and he was fine in the restaurant. He tends to want to stay home, though, as much as he can, but once he's out he likes it.
The land below ours was claered and a street put in. He enjoys watching people walk it. I've told him repeatedly not to watch them with his binoculars. It's too creepy. One day he was on the lanai and I checked on him. A young woman was directly infront of him on the street below doing what is best described as an exotic dance. I asked him to come in the house and she left after five minutes. His comment to me, "Did you see that nut job down there?"
Life is sure interesting these days!
I hope your shoulder surgery goes well. I had open hurt surgery in 2019 and still managed with the help of friends, while recovering.