@samy,- Samy, I definitely understand your indecision and hesitation about taking an AI drug. You are only 69, though, and to me, that's YOUNG! I'm nearly 75. I have a husband, daughter, son-in-law, and two beautiful young grandchildren. I tutor children during the week. I don't want to take the chance of having a recurring bout of cancer that could possibly take my life away. I've been on Arimidex for 15 months and I have good days and not so good days with the side effects. It seems from this forum that most of the AIs have similar side effects. I guess we all have to decide how we're going to tackle this and I hope some day, a better medicine will be discovered. For now, though, I have to choose staying on the ones that are now available to us. I truly do understand your quandary, though. I hope you stay with this forum, though. It is a comfort!

Samy and francine6829 - When you hear those words 'cancer' it's a horrifying moment. Cancer has this mystery surrounding it because the truth is, the doctors don't really know how to 'cure' it. You make it through the shock, then the treatments, whether that's surgery (often and likely in breast cancer) and then possibly radiation and chemo and immunotherapy and targeted therapy and.............the AI drugs. It feels like the onslaught of bad news and feeling bad will never stop. I lost seven pounds before I ever had surgery (stress) and then another 20 after surgery. I'm not complaining about the weight loss, I needed to drop those pounds (and that's the only good thing that I got from cancer so far).

It does get better!!!!! It's never a happy, unicorns dancing in a field of flowers near a golden rainbow thing...but it does get better. But it takes time. I had to wrap my head around 'why me', 'will it come back', 'will I feel awful like this forever',

I had complications during surgery and complications after surgery and lymphedema (which was corrected with revision surgery). That was all in the first 1 1/2 ...but now, 3 1/2 years in, I still worry, things are different for me, but I don't think about it all the time anymore.

I am settled with my decision not to get reconstruction and with not taking the AI's but it took a long time to process and accept my decisions. I didn't want to compromise my day to day well being but I also don't want to die from cancer. The choice is very, very tough.

Two things to consider: It's not an 'all or nothing' decision. You can try the AI's and see how you react. You can try 3 or 4 of them (I did) to see how they affect you and what you can manage and live with. And you can work with your doctor and other survivors to manage side effects or process your decision not to take them. The hardest part is having to make the decision between two sometimes bad choices. And.............breast cancer is one of the cancers with good outcomes for many. I prefer this to a cancer where the 'part' cannot be easily removed .....pancreas, liver, bones, blood.........We can remove our breasts or parts of them and still live normal lives, not so much our small intestine, say..... Those are the last words my surgeon told me as we went into surgery (I was very nervous).......she said, 'just be glad I'm not removing your pancreas'....ha ha.....it stuck with me
Keeping breast cancer from spreading to your bones or brain or lung or liver or..........that's a strong consideration for being as aggressive as you can be without ruining your day to day life.

And finally, the survivor rate of 5 and 10 years for breast cancer patients is very high. Don't forget to read those posts and articles as well. It helps to find glimmers of hope wherever you can.

Hugs..........the decisions are really tough. This Mayo site has been a real blessing for me....from the moderators to all the wonderful people here who are quick to lend and ear and share.