A medical problem no matter what it is, is nothing to be judged about. I hope you are misinterpreting this. Keep in mind judgement is a reflection on the person or persons doing the judging, having nothing to do with you.
I am a 61 year old woman with anal cancer. I have been in a monogamous relationship with my husband for 41 years, was never promiscuous, & never engaged in anal sex. When I was first diagnosed, I felt dirty, until I came to my senses & realized I’ve never judged anyone’s personal way of life before, so why was I going down that path. The literature focuses on homosexual males, (although it states that there is a rise in women getting this cancer), as always, risk factors are just that. This is my second cancer in 2 years, the risk factors for the first cancer were smoking, & being a male of 70-80 years old. I’ve never smoked.
This is a very hard cancer to have. The treatment is very painful, be kind to yourself, you will need your strength. Very best of wishes for you!