@frances007 Funny (not in the “haha” way), I too often wished I had not been related to my mother - and it would not surprise me to hear my eldest has felt the same way about me! I swore I would never be like my mother and I consciously did everything she did not do for me, while raising my kids, but unfortunately there were some learned behaviours I was not aware of, that damaged my kids (especially my oldest), anyway.