A medical problem no matter what it is, is nothing to be judged about. I hope you are misinterpreting this. Keep in mind judgement is a reflection on the person or persons doing the judging, having nothing to do with you.
I am a 61 year old woman with anal cancer. I have been in a monogamous relationship with my husband for 41 years, was never promiscuous, & never engaged in anal sex. When I was first diagnosed, I felt dirty, until I came to my senses & realized I’ve never judged anyone’s personal way of life before, so why was I going down that path. The literature focuses on homosexual males, (although it states that there is a rise in women getting this cancer), as always, risk factors are just that. This is my second cancer in 2 years, the risk factors for the first cancer were smoking, & being a male of 70-80 years old. I’ve never smoked.
This is a very hard cancer to have. The treatment is very painful, be kind to yourself, you will need your strength. Very best of wishes for you!

Greetings, wastars! - - -

I hade anal cancer stage 3C, HPV-16 mediated, for which I was treated with 5-FU, Mitomycin, and radiation. I had 2 metasises since over the course of 6 years.

My radiation oncologist was a very compassionate man who sat me down to tell me NEVER to be ashamed. So many people in the USA, over 90%, have been exposed to HPV that it's now just part of the human condition. The huge majority of the exposed never know, as an infection rarely causes an illness that is recognized. And anatomically, when women have intercourse with someone who is unwittingly infected, well - body fluids run downhill after all.

Anybody who tries to shame you should be left in your dust, ESPECIALLY medical professionals. Speak to their supervisors or the hospital's medical board or state medical board. Sic 'em!