You are so right. We have so much technology today why don't babies come with an operating manual? You come home from the hospital with this tiny human being and then what. Most of us do the best we can. But some of us did not have much luck, did we. That's why we are here. I wrack my brain but I just cannot understand how parents can harm their babies. Even though my mother was the devil incarnate, I was not able to do that to my sons. I loved them too much. We probably didn't do a perfect job, but when the love is there, all is good.