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@ohnmar I feel for you as I know what depression and anxiety feels like. How do you get through every day?

I can relate to your experience and I didn't even move overseas. I'm in the US and we (my husband at the time) moved to Montréal in Canada. I had a fellowship in a lab where I was the only anglophone. I knew some French before we moved but certainly not enough for any kind of conversation. I took French classes in Montréal. It was exciting at first and then I became very anxious and depressed. This was before cell phones, texting, and fast internet so communicating with family and friends was more difficult. I found it difficult to make new friends in Montréal. . I felt isolated where I was working. In retrospect I now realize that the anxiety and depression was more related to my marriage and my husband's loss of interest in the marriage. So when I became more depressed he became more emotionally remote and eventually began having affairs. What did I do at the time? I had to care of myself. I found a psychiatrist to work with who prescribed medications that worked well enough for me to function better. I never did find a therapist in Montréal that I connected with although I admit I gave up after about 6 months of trying. I managed to accomplish a lot in my fellowship despite all this but it wasn't until I moved back to the US and then got a divorce that I began to feel better.

Personal relationships and close friends really matter. So does therapy. I hope you will work with your doctor on your medication and find a therapist you feel connection to. You are living presumably in a new country and trying to get used to the culture without the benefit of close friends or family with you. Is that accurate? Are you fluent in the language of this country?

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What you said is very right. It’s only me & my husband here & there’s no none. I also can’t tell my husband frankly all about my feelings & how I am suffering being here because I don’t want him to depress like me. He resigned his job to accompany me to support my career & he may also has guilty conscience for not being able to earn income at this point of time. If he knows I am suffering here, I am afraid it will hurt his feelings.