How you qualify for what surgery depends how bad your neck issues are and what anatomy is effected. Your fear of neck fusion is overplayed, they have a very successful outcome ratio.
I personally take 600mg 3 times a day of gabapentin. Taking it in a steady stream avoids having to wait hours for relief. I have told you the critical importance of this before yet you insist on taking just nite time doses and sufferring.
I take 50mg of nortriptyline right after diner around 630 pm and 5mg ambien at 830pm. The dosages and timing you are doing are not providing you the optimum outcome of relief possible. You are also a much bigger person and could tolerate larger doses. Talk to your doctors. You may need a muscle relaxer prescribed as well to stop the spasms caused by the nerves.
Telling you for the last time, horrible burning radiating pain,numbness and tingling of hands is all caused by impingment or compression of the nerves. Its the nerves that dictate and control you they spasm the muscles, they send the signals to your brain. You didnt mention ice, so for heaven sake ice more, I can tell you don't ice nearly enough. .massage should feel good, a good relieving pain if deep tissue is done. At this stage you need to skip on this only the lightest touch, let the ice do the work. If not icing try Biofreeze or Cobroxin or Nyloxin topical gels or Lidocaine 4% patches. These help me. Prayers for pain relief and mental support