Thanks Laurie for the encouragement. You have hit the proverbial nail in the head. My own therapist recently helped me see that I and my adult kids want a release from the prison of addiction for my wife more than she does. She may just like the position where she can continue lying and manipulating her way thru life, as long as she is calling the shots. I’ve recently concluded that enabling that to continue via maintaining the status quo isn’t helping her and more importantly it’s hurting me and the kids. She can’t break out the prison of addiction until she wants it more than we want it for her. And that outcome doesn’t seem within sight.