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Do pictures of your loved ones hurt or help?
Loss & Grief | Last Active: Aug 24, 2023 | Replies (69)Comment receiving replies
I think it would have been more considerate to give it to you in an envelope. When a close loved one of mine died, there was another loved one that would ambush me with pictures on my phone at random times every day. When I would finally be spending some semblance of a normal moment, I would be jolted back into my grief. Obviously, the person sending me all the pictures every day must have found some comfort in them but I wanted it to stop. Anyway, I could tell more of my story but my point is that I think it varies by individual. I am sorry you suffered that pain. In time (years) I have come to cherish all pictures of my lost loved ones, but I still try to respect how I am feeling emotionally, on any given day, before looking at them. I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband.
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Hi @nrocpop -- I do recall being upset once when someone sent me an old picture of my brother when he was bald from the chemo. She sent that years after he passed. I didn't understand why. That might be cute if he had lived, but since he died from his cancer I didn't want to be reminded of it. That was the exact type of image I had worked hard to get out of my mind.
I do enjoy when people send me fun old pics of those I've lost when they were healthy and having a good time. But, like you said, to each his own. My birth family members passed between 5 and 40 years ago. I still miss them and it still boggles my mind that they are all gone, but it's not fresh anymore. I think it's hardest for me when I have something I want to share with them.